Parents of Kids With ADD, ADHD + Autism: Pay Attention to Succulent Plants

by Andrea Anderson on April 4, 2017

I’m seeing lots of succulent plants lately, at restaurants, in stores…I felt drawn to them, and consequently, bought a couple. There’s something about these plants that I resonate with so strongly.

It dawned on me yesterday that I’m seeing these particular plants over and over for a reason. And that, right now in the US (and perhaps elsewhere) people are being drawn to these plants for a reason.

Here’s what I know:

These succulent plants can grow under practically ALL conditions. They need little water. They like sun, but seem to still thrive in your home, with little sun. They can be dug up out of the ground and transplanted into a little pot and without much tending to, they THRIVE in your home. Their leaves are robust, full of moisture and one might describe them (as I am here) as being very hearty and strong. Again, they are strong + healthy with very little attention.

It seems these plants can thrive unconditionally. I’ll say that again because that’s the key point regarding these plants. They can THRIVE unconditionally.

And this I sense is why we’re seeing an abundance of them right now.

For those who are parents- of a child or teen with ADD, an LD, ADHD, autism and those parents with “typical” kids, we are feeling and seeing this. The need, or actually a CALL within us to allow ourselves AND our kids to thrive under any and all conditions.

To not need our kids to act a certain way to feel good about them. To not judge ourselves as being “wrong or bad” for not helping our kids in a way we feel we “should” or “shouldn’t” have.

A call to accept ourselves and our kids as they are. As we are. Which means allowing ourselves to accept what we see in front of us right now. However, we’re showing up as parents, however, our kids are behaving, “funky” or calm. Frustrated or at peace.

Yes, we are being called to allow ourselves and our kids to thrive under all conditions. Just like those succulent plants. Those darn plants do that. Easily.

And, we can too, if we just stop trying to change the conditions of our lives and our kids lives in order to allow ourselves to be happy.

And instead, we start allowing ourselves to be happy, right here, right now. With exactly what’s going on NOW.

This might sound contrary to what I help people with. I help people to improve their kids/teens ADD, ADHD, etc through natural means. Doesn’t that mean I’m trying to change the conditions to help them (and myself) to be happier?

Well, if I’m completely honest. I have felt this at times. If I could just help my son stop freaking out, I would feel better and he’d feel better. Well, that approach doesn’t always work so well. There’s a lot of resistance in that approach (trying + pushing for a result I’m hoping for…) which means more work and less feeling and experiencing the outcome I was hoping for.

However, when I shifted my thinking to, I can feel in my heart that this particular “healing” step would be an awesome way to help me + my sons tap into who they really are. And, even though I can feel something that tells me there’s more possible for them, they are still awesome boys who I’m feeling content with. I just have this feeling inside that’s telling me to take this next step.

Loving and appreciating your kids (and yourself) where you’re at, means you get to feel happy now. You’re not needing the conditions to change to feel good. You’re still thriving under what some might call “less desirable conditions”.

Just like those succulent plants I’ve been so darn attracted to.

By the way, when you experience this (feeling content with where you’re at), if there is another action that could help you + your kids feel even better, well, then it comes through, it shows itself. Because you’re in a state of appreciating.

And I’ll tell you what… It doesn’t feel like pushing or forcing, it just feels “right”. Like the next logical step. The next step toward even more freedom and good feelings for you and your kids.

And this my friend comes from allowing ourselves to find what is good about where we’re at now. And then, feeling good about being in that place.

It’s about thriving unconditionally. Just like those succulent plants.

Blessings! Here’s to ALL of us learning and relearning this lesson over and over. In every aspect of our lives.

Rock on mamas (and papas), I’m with you in spirit!



PS  Looking for ways to appreciate your kids where they’re at now? If you start doing more things (each day) that feel good to YOU.  A walk, a hike, a nap, meditate, paint, dance, watch an uplifting movie, spend time with friends that LIFT your spirits.  Doing what feels good to YOU allows you to shift your energy and focus to that which feels lighter, brighter and more relaxed.  Then, when you turn your attention to your kids, you show up (more easily) in a state of appreciating them.  From here, you take ONLY the actions that feel good to take to “help” them…

PPS  I have a fr*eebie audio that shares 3 of the steps I took to help my sons clear from autism.  If you’re feelin’ it, here’s the link.

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