How to Accept Where Your Kids Are At, Before You Move onto MORE

by Andrea Anderson on September 21, 2017

If you’re human like the rest of us and I’m pretty certain you are if you’re reading this… Your kids engage in behaviors that can sometimes bug the cr@p out of you.

Yup.  We’ve ALL experienced these feelings.

Well, if you’re ready to take the edge off of some of those feelings, here’s something I’ve done to help myself in this same arena.


Super quick exercise:

Think to yourself right now, what are one or two things that your kids do that irritate you?

Now, think to yourself, where do you do the same thing?

Look closely, the more honest you are with yourself, you’ll find it!

Now comes the part where you begin to cultivate more compassion. Allow yourself to see where this behavior has been helpful.  Try to think of at least two examples.  Apply this toward yourself and your kids.

When you start noticing that you do all the same things you judge your kids for, you begin to be more understanding.

When you start to notice that these behaviors can be helpful, you begin to judge less and feel more acceptance for what is.

Knowing full well it can be tricky to view your child’s “poor behavior” as helpful, allow me to share some examples of my own, (when my sons haven’t listened to me.)

First came anger and frustration, I felt ignored.

I looked closer and realized, when I demand something instead of asking kindly, my kids can ignore me as a way of saying, “Hey, you can’t talk to me that way, I deserve respect.”

I smile because I want them to expect respect from me, other family members, friends, everyone.  Yes, ignoring me was their way of helping me to learn to be kinder and more respectful to them.

I continue to look for ways that being ignored can actually be viewed as helpful.

I remember that leaders don’t listen to what others say and do, they follow what feels right to them.  I smile knowing I’d prefer for my sons to lead rather than follow.

Hmm, where else can not listening be a good thing?

When I think if teenagers who succumb to peer pressure and do things just to fit in.

I smile thinking I like the thought of my sons following what’s in their hearts not what everyone else is doing.

I begin to see the positive aspect of not listening.  It doesn’t mean I condone not being listened to, it just means I get clear when it’s important to be listened to and when it’s actually a good thing that I wasn’t.

Now (if you’re willing), it’s your turn.  See where you can find the helpful aspects of behaviors that appear to be negative.

Excerpt from Page 60-61 in my book:  I Healed My Sons of Autism & You Can Too: The 7 Keys to Clearing Your Child of ADHD & Autism Naturally

Here’s to seeing the “Truth”, whether our kids listen to us or not, they are really quite awesome already!



PS If you’re looking for a resource tool for holistic ways you can help your kid evolve from ADD, ADHD, learning challenges, anxiety or autism, I’ve got a pretty cool book for ya.  Feel free to download the first 2 chapters for free here.  Or if you’re ready to read the whole book, here’s a link to grab one for yourself.

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